I remember a Director in one of my previous jobs saying to our team: "we are all replaceable and life just goes on". It was meant to explain we could always recruit new staff when one would leave the company, which is technically true and quite reassuring from a "company performance" point of view, yet wasn't exactly pleasant to hear and somehow, it didn't felt accurate to me.
If we are so easily replaceable, what is our true added value?
If we breakdown life into tasks, duties, actions and moments, everything is moving forward smoothly as long as the job gets done. Whoever is behind an action is either helpful, kind and/or paid for it. This approach to life is an efficient 'ticking to-do list's boxes' one: "find a travel buddy for July", "finish the budget for next semester", "go on a date", "get them flowers", etc.
Could someone else do your job, travel with your friend, offer those flowers? Technically, yes.
Could someone else do everything you did that brought you were are today and led you to those lists? Not so sure.
I have heard many times people around me saying they feel invisible, especially in big cities and big companies: truth is, if we look at life as a list of actions, tasks and to-do lists, there is always a way to replace us. In some cases it is a very good thing: for example in a company, it allows us to aim at a new job, to go on vacation - colleagues can help or replace if needed. We are not leaving irresponsable empty voids behind us.
However it can end up making us feel like just another useful item: great, yet always replaceable. Available, yet one option among others. And the part of us that fought to get a job when all odds were again us, that spent a childhood dreaming of a specific group of friends or relationship and finally made that dream come true, or that wanted to do better than the previous generation: that part, that specific layer of who we are, is left unacknowledged, when this is the layer that gives value and purpose to what we achieve.
If we break down life in 3 layers - essence, existence and value - the latter takes us beyond to-do lists and gives us access to a bigger picture. It is were our motivations and uniqueness lie.
If we break down life in 3 layers - essence, existence and value - the latter takes us beyond to-do lists and gives us access to a bigger picture. It is were our motivations and uniqueness lie.
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